CHANGES….

the inevitable… the constant.. and the dominant force that completes our life…

We deal with changes everyday. The sound of your alarm clock reminds you the constant movement of time. The clothes hanging in your closet gives you a new image of yourself for the day. Your road to work makes you realize that people from all walks of life, some your familiar with and some you don’t recognize remind you of change.

Sometimes we try to resist change. Who wants change when it means you have to say goodbye to someone temporarily or maybe forever? Who needs it when you have sacrificed everything just for other people’s happiness? Who dreamt of change when it will shatter all the things you were born to believe in?

But when we look at the other side of change, it simply means growth. It is the driving force behind all the success we attained, the experiences in life we cherished and the moments we kept called memories. Change whether it is a good thing for us or something that frightens us is always one of life’s surprises that will give us everyday something to look forward to.

The Agony of Identity

Identity is one of the most complicated, debated and discussed issues in our society. The real world setting helps us recognize our identity from the time we learned our names and the moment we had a glimpse of ourselves in the reflecting glass,the mirror. For some it might be the best scene of their life but for others, it would be a question of is this who i am? Although childhood is a process but the recognition of who we are from its first stage I think is possible. Take for example for the transgender children, I remember watching this entire 20/20 episode reported by Barbara Walters on ABC. A young biologically born boy wants to transform himself into a female. As early as his age (around 8 or 9 yrs old i think), he knows exactly what he wants to do for himself. His parents were so supportive but the society (the system that forces everyone to live with the norms) is judgmental, critical and even harsh… If a child knows his real identity from the beginning, then who are we to condemn him?! Knowing our identity from the early stage of our growth is the start of our real existence.

But not everyone could recognize their real identities as early as childhoood which is quite terrifying. This is because when someone becomes deeply blinded with the society’s norms and definitions of who is a guy and a gal, crisis awaits at the footsteps of your personal door. WHo would have thought that even people on their mid 20’s or even late thirty’s experience identity crisis? It is arguable that becoming a different person from your previous identity is caused by the environment. Sometimes, the idea of who you are is innate but you just did not realize it earlier since you were repressed from the beginning. You were never been asked what you wanted to wear, what you wanted to watch or what you wanted to do. You followed the normal cycle of life because awakening takes times, not years but a lifetime. You might have the idea of you don’t know who you are at the moment because you never even tried to figure it out.

Later in life, even you finally found the missing piece, the unknown part of yourself…you will still never stop to question the anonymous side of your world.

Existence is a process not an answer to your questions.